Being More Than a Sperm Donor: What Dads Need to Know Now!
Posted by: Christy Cuellar-Wentz in Parenting Articles, tags: Parenting Articles1. Donating sperm may have been easy, but learning to be a great lover takes time and patience. Becoming a great father is no different. Learning the ropes may take some time, but I guarantee the life-long rewards will be more than worth the effort!
2. Hands-on fathering is good for you, your partner and your baby. It’s not just about changing diapers. Feeding, bathing, holding and talking to your little one helps you bond together and gain essential on-the-job training.
3. You have undoubtedly discovered that your wife isn’t much fun right now. She may be weepy, stressed, and a bit less groomed than she used to be. This is normal. The good news is that she will return to something like her old self again once your little family has navigated the gauntlet of new parenthood.
4. It may look like all your wife cares about is the baby, but she actually needs you. A lot. The amazing person you coupled with nine or ten months ago is right there inside the stressed-out new mom. Stay close and keep the faith.
5. Your sex life may have taken a nose dive, but you will be able to engage in some adult fun, with your wife, soon.
6. Postpartum disorders are no one’s fault. It is normal for new moms to experience some sort of postpartum mood disorder. It’s not your fault, or hers either. Some symptoms are temporary. All are treatable.
7. Sleep heals. Mothers typically take the brunt of sleepless nights, but you’re probably not getting as much as you need either. Whoever came up with the phrase “sleeping like a baby” didn’t know babies wake up a lot! One proven way to help both of you feel better is to support each other in getting sleep whenever possible.
8. Trust your gut. Everybody, from the guy at the gym to your baby’s pediatrician, will give you different advice. Even if you’re new at this, your instincts are good. Your wife, your baby and your instincts will let you know what you need to know if you pay attention.
9. Your baby needs to play with you. Here is a case where having fun is the right thing. Playing stimulates your baby’s mind and body to develop in healthy ways. You may feel more playful right now than your wife, so go for it.
10. The advent of a new baby is stressful. Even miracles create challenges. Things should get smoother with a little time. If your lives don’t get better, or if you or your wife feels worse, ask for help!
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