Archive for August, 2008

by Donald Saunders

It is not always easy to think of a great gift for a baby shower but a baby blanket might just be the answer to earning yourself the “most popular gift” award at the shower. With a wide range of clever and original designs now available you can’t go wrong here.

But, what could possibly be more ordinary than a baby blanket I hear you ask? Used for hundreds of years to swath a baby and provide much needed warmth, it’s difficult to picture anyone coming up with a novel idea in this area. think again. Baby blankets have entered whole new heights of fun,usefulness and creativity.

One example is “Pigs in a Blanket” which combines both a clever design and a practical gift. This two-piece gift set will generate lots of “aahs” and “oohs” when the expectant mom opens the beautifully decorated gift box which comprises a charming vintage container surmounted by an organza bow.

Inside the box she will find a plush blanket that can be embossed with a lovely phrase or simply personalized. The blanket is wrapped around an even lovelier pig in the style of a teddy bear that will soon become the baby’s favorite. Made from stain-resistant polyester and with a tough construction, it could well even be passed down to the next generation of the family.

This gift also comes with a child’s story book rhyme designed in a similar style to complement the two other items. “This Little Piggy” printed on the back was never such fun and the five little piggies dancing on the front are in agreement.

Another fun gift is the JoJo Giraffe toy which also comes with its own special blanket housed in its own keepsake box. Standing 20 inches high it will proudly occupy a spot in the corner until the baby can no longer resist the temptation to play with it… which at a guess will take about five seconds. With his arms and legs wrapped around a colorful keepsake box which is done in similar style, JoJo is quite simply a perfect gift.

The blanket which comes with the gift adds greatly to the delight which both baby and mom will get from this gorgeous item. Easily personalized with the baby’s name, the sunny yellow fleece of the blanket is soothing and warm. Additionally, at 30 inches by 40 inches, it is a good size for a a decorative bed cover or a baby blanket.

Even baby blankets which are standalone items can also make perfect gifts. One excellent example of this is The Maddie’s Meadow. Colorfully and brightly decorated with butterflies and flowers on a background of pink, it’s very inviting. The gift box itself also carries the same theme with fluffy pink clouds and bright green grass which will remind mom of the joys of spring. Personalization is also easily accomplished because of the wide satin border surrounding the soft fleece.

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by Dan Sewinski

Although Haley loved her adoptive parents as much as any child ever loved his or her natural parents, she still had an empty place inside which would only be filled when she knew who had been responsible for bringing her into the world. Haley had spent much of her adult life trying to trace her birth parents, but aided only by the names of her biological mother and the city in which she was born, she had very little hope of success.

Ashley was unable to get any further information from the adoption agency which had placed her with her adoptive parents. She spent countless hours doing Internet searches on her mother’s name, and kept running into dead ends. She was beginning to think she’d never track down her biological parents, who were the only people who could answer all her questions.

She wanted to look at them and see if she could find a resemblance. She wanted to know the reasons that she was put up for adoption and she wanted to thank them for giving her the opportunity to have the life that she had led with her beloved adoptive parents.

Haley had reached the point where she would have been happy just to find out that her birth parents were still alive, but she was beginning to think she’d be denied even that much when she decided to make one final effort with the adoption agency. She was surprised to find out that the employee to whom she usually spoke had been replaced by a new woman.

But the new staff member seemed to be as tight-lipped as her predecessor, and before Haley had even finished her first question about locating her birth parents, the woman interrupted her and said that the adoption agency was legally prevented from revealing their identity.

And then Ashley heard what she had been waiting for years to hear. The woman told her of a website which could help adoptees find their birth parents, and gave Ashley its URL. Rushing home, a hopeful and excited Ashley went online to the URL the adoption agency lady had provided, and found herself on a reverse records site. In the indicated space, she entered the name of her birth mother.

And all at once, Haley’s search was over! The website immediately provided her birth mother’s address and phone number, and did in seconds what Haley had been unable to do in years. Haley could now write to her birth mother, or even phone her and hear her voice for the very first time.

Within seconds, the website provided her with a new address and phone number. Haley absolutely could not believe it. All these years she had searched and within seconds, she had found out where her real mother was. After coming to terms with the situation, Haley finally dialed the number that had popped up on the website.

Ashley heard only silence for seconds, but the woman didn’t hang up, and then she quietly began sobbing. Ashley knew her struggle had at last borne fruit, and that she actually was speaking with the woman who had brought her into the world. Today Ashley not only knows and loves her birth mother, but has the joy of an extended family of half-brothers and sisters.

Haley couldn’t believe that she had finally found her birth mother. Since then, she has gotten to know both her birth mother and half siblings. Her father had passed away some time before that, but Haley was thankful to know the rest of her family. She could never have found the information without that website.

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by Judy Turner

In today’s economy, it is hard to make money stretch to match your budget. As a mother of two growing children, I’ve learned the hard way how to do just that. Here are some tips that I’ve learned along the way.

Planning Your Budget

The best way to live frugally is to plan ahead. Looking in the grocery ads can cause a wave of despair and worry that you won’t have enough money. Here are a few tips on planning your grocery budget that may help you stretch your dime into a dollar:

1. Calculations – Get a rough estimate of the cost to feed each person in your household. Throughout the years, I’ve found that it takes approximately $30 – $37 dollars a week to feed one person – it may be more or less, depending on how much your family eats and where you live. Here is a simple formula to figure out your weekly grocery budget:

(number of family members) x $34 (average) = (weekly grocery budget)

Since there are four people in my home; I have $136 allotted for groceries. With any luck I can bring this down with coupons and store sales.

2. Plan your meals around the store sales. Keep them simple: protein, vegetable, carbohydrates. If possible, plan to use the same type of meat twice in one week; you can buy in bulk, separate and freeze. Plan chicken for one night (cook a few extra) and two days later make a casserole with the leftovers.

3. With your meal plan in hand, make a grocery list using the store ads and write the dollar amount of each item beside it. It’s essential to make a list; without it, you end up buying things you don’t need, as well as forgetting some things that you do need.

Round up. When you are figuring the cost of food go ahead and round up to the nearest dollar on everything. This will insure that you stay within your budget with extra to spare.

5. Add up the totals as you go along, keeping in mind your “have to have” amount. Once you have reached that total, stop and check your meal plan. If you’re at your “have to have” amount and only have three meals covered, you need to reassess your meal plan; it may be too elaborate.

Although every household has different eating habits, this is a good start for budgeting groceries. You may have to adjust things to fit your situation.

Healthy Meals on a Budget

A lot of people say that it is hard to feed your family healthy foods on a budget. Even if rice and pasta become your main staples it doesn’t mean you can’t round out the meal plan with healthy fruits and vegetables. The next time you make a list keep these things in mind:

Not all vegetables are created equally – Buy frozen if you can’t afford fresh. The juice in canned vegetables is where most of your vitamins are. Not so with frozen vegetables; the vitamins are still in the food itself. Just like with meat, you can often save when you buy frozen vegetables in bulk. Purchase big, resealable bags of frozen veggies so that you can use what you need and put the rest back in the freezer.

Buy potatoes, noodles or rice, but use them sparingly. Give larger amounts of vegetables, with the starches as a sort of side dish.

Buy carrots as snack foods for the kids. You can buy a large bag for low cost, peel them and then cut them up. Not only do they get vitamins this way, but they’re also low calorie. Most kids like carrots because they’re sweet and this is a great way for them to get more vegetables in their diet.

Buy in Bulk

Whenever you can – and if you have the freezer room – buy your meats and vegetables in bulk. You can save a lot of money this way. Meat is usually cheaper by the pound when you buy the big packs.

You can do many things to stretch your food budget; this outline is just the tip of the iceberg. However, the biggest thing is to look at cost vs. amount. While generic foods may look like a better deal, the contents of the container may weigh much less than name brands. Do your research – though it may take more time, the savings are well worth it.

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by David Bostwick

As we all know what we name our babies can effect him, her, or God help you both them for the rest of their lives. Do you remember the song by Johnny Cash named A Boy Named Sue? Do you remember how this guy was tormented all his life because he was given a girl’s name to toughen him up.

Would Sue have made the same choice if he had the opportunity? Possibly but most probably not. I have on occassion thought that a child should be able to pick his or her own name regardless. Can you imagine sleeping baby Kid Rock or would napping baby Scary Spice?

I remember the naming ceremony for my little one. My wife had undergone 12 hours in labor and was dressed to the 9’s – NOT. They wheeled her out of the recovery room with all the fan fair due a new mother. NOT! While she held our sleeping newborn an administrative lady was there, clipboard in hand demanind to know right then what was the kid’s name? We panicked. We didn’t remember the name.

First time moms and dads have been known to hand a baby a name that defies logic. The googability of a name is a hot topic for some obsessive parents. Their feeling is that the searchability of a name may become important in the years to come when job hunting.

Give it thought. Verify that the name will not turn people off or has some other connotations that will follow the infant. An odd name will surely cause many unforeseen problems for a young adult. A well known musician named is children Moon Unit and Dweezil. What fuss do you think that can cause?

A name should also be simple or simply put simple for people to say and spell. It is efficient if not practical to use a J for a soft J sound not a G. We often take jabs at the English language because of bizarre spellings – this time you get to choose. Choose Wisely.

You may have a big family. Naming your baby will surely cause some upheaval by offending someone. Great Aunt Whatchamacallit was holding out for someone to name their baby after her before she died. Do not succumb to the pressure. Name the infant what you want.

In truth name your child something that fits – fits for you. Ask advice for anyone you care to but in the end it is what you think that matters. Do you really want to shout from the backyard window at dusk — Optimus Prime get in here and do your homework? In the end it is whatever helps your baby sleep through the night now isn’t it?

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by Charlie Reese

Planning A Baby Shower Made Simple

Hosting a baby shower is a lot of fun. With careful planning, the party will be an event to remember. If you want a smooth party without any glitches, use these easy tips when planning a baby shower.

Planning A Baby Shower Tip Number One: Get A Guest List

No one gives themselves a baby shower. As a result, the hostess of a baby shower most likely doesn’t know everyone in the guest of honors circle of friends. It is important to ask the guest of honor for a list of the people she would like you to invite. If you have limited space or a limited budget, decide early on how many people you can comfortably host and ask the guest of honor for a list of the exact amount of people you are willing to host. By being specific and upfront with the guest of honor, you will avoid misunderstandings or hurt feelings down the road.

Once you have a guest list, complete with addresses and if possible phone numbers, you can start to hash out the details of your party. Planning a baby shower without having a guest list in place makes it hard to decide on a menu, venue, and even the number of games or activities you hope to have.

Planning A Baby Shower Tip Number Two: Delegate

Often more than one friend or family member is interested in throwing a baby shower and as a result there can be hurt when someone else’s offer of hosting is accepted. Always ask the guest of honor if any of her other friends or family wanted to throw her a shower or get involved in the one you are hosting. You can save yourself a lot of work by delegating out simple tasks. How much you delegate is up to you. You can have someone pick up the cake you ordered or you can give the task of ordering and choosing the cake to another friend. If crafts aren’t your thing, put someone else in charge of party favors or decorating. You can even ask an outgoing friend to come up with a few games. At the very least, ask a few friends to help you greet and serve guests and then enlist them to help you with clean up.

Planning A Baby Shower Tip Number Three: Be Prepared To Suggest Gift Ideas

As the host, it is going to be assumed that you have a firsthand knowledge of what the mother to be needs. It is always a great idea to have a list ready that includes the bedding she has chosen, information on where she is registered, and the sex of the baby.

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by Karen Thurm Safran

Summer camp guidelines for parents will be a great help they should have before sending their kids to a right camp. As the summer draws nearer, every one makes preparation for something or other to get maximum benefit out of the vacation time. What have you decided to do this summer?

A summer camp is one of the favorite options available for kids during summer. As parents, it’s your responsibility to plan a vacation time for your children. Do not go blind while choosing a summer camp simply because your neighbors choose a camp for their kids. There are certain guidelines for choosing a right one.

One of the first tips you can follow is to understand the management of the camp and who is behind the system. This will help you figure out the strength and quality of the camp. Please observe how long the camp has been working and how expert the organizers are. If it has just started the camp, you will need authenticity of the camp to trust it.

The next thing you need to note whether the camp focuses on education. The main reason behind this concept is to boost your kid’s school performance along with having fun and excitement. There are camps for various educational subjects such as computer camps, science camps, language camps, sports camps and many more. You can explore the internet for finding out the right sort of camp that offers one of the educational topics.

A camp should provide safety related risk management facilities. This has become an integral part of a camp that should be there in the camp. For this reason, they are accredited ACA which is one of the markers of authentically.

At the end of this checklist inquire about the counselors and trainers who are working in a camp. Dedicated and trained staff members will take responsibility earnestly. Moreover, check out whether the ratio of five to six students per trainer is maintained. It is not mandatory but will be beneficial as the students will get proper attention from the counselor. They have to be sociable and frank to make kids feel at home.

A summer camp builds an atmosphere that offers kids fun and excitements with learning new lessons of life. They can spend a rewarding sort of time with new friends. These suggestions will help you in getting your kid enrolled in a best camp that will suit him or her most.

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by Charlie Reese

Creating a Wonderful Online Baby Shower Invitation

Invitations for a baby shower come in a variety of shapes, sizes and designs. These can be personalized baby shower invitations that the hosts themselves created or they can be generic invitations that just need to be filled up at the convenience of the host. There are also online baby shower invitations that the hosts can send electronically via email. These are the more modern forms of baby shower invitations and commonly used if most friends of the parents to be are all basically wired.

Ideas for Online Baby Shower Invitations

There are an infinite number of possibilities for online baby shower invitations. Since these are created in the computer and sent electronically, you can also get pictures, graphics and other clip arts to paste on your format to make the online baby shower invitations more attractive or more interesting.

You can also make animated online baby shower invitations to deviate from the usual baby shower invitations sent via email. You will need animated graphics and these can be found on the World Wide Web easily. The key is to choose the right one to suit the occasion. Animated invitations can also be fun to watch and you can be assured that the recipients will watch it several times if it is highly amusing or interesting.

Another suggestion for creating online baby shower invitations is to personally write down the names of the recipients instead of a generic invitation. This can be done by just editing the heading of the online baby shower invitations one by one. This makes for a more personal invitation that the recipient will appreciate.

In order to make your online baby shower invitation easier to upload and download you must stick to the smaller, web friendly version. Bigger formats and files are sometimes difficult to open and your recipients might not be able to see what your email is all about. The ideal size of the file should not be more than 500kb. People with slow internet connections can still open this without any problems. If you are aware of the internet connection speed of your recipients, you can increase the size of your file but it is better to stick to the smaller sized online baby shower invitations to be sure.

Online baby shower invitations are easier to send out and cheaper too. You do not have to invest in the actual paper so there is less trash for the environment to deal with as well. It also helps save effort in sending since you send them electronically and you are assured that your friends can receive them as soon as they open their inboxes.

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by Jeff Safin

You may have heard rumors going around that home schooling in California is in fact illegal, despite what you may have heard this is totally not true. What is true is that the requirements for setting up a home school in California are pretty strict.

In California, just like any other state in the United States of America, when homeschooling you are required to follow an accredited and recognized curriculum which can come from a public school, private school, or other accredited source.

Having the capability to teach

It is also true that some rumors have been circulating that in the state of California you must have a Californian registered teaching license in order to run a homeschool.

This rumor is also not true, since the Californian law very simply states that any teacher participating in homeschooling must be capable of teaching. Of course it’s certainly can’t do any harm to get a certified Californian teaching license, but it is not legally required.

As you can see, the Californian law for this in particular is extremely vague and so can be interpreted in many ways.

In the public and privately run schools of today the decision on whether a teacher is capable of teaching or not will lie at the hands of the people in charge of the school.

But the process for home schooling in California is different, since the parent and the teacher are very often one and the same.

Starting a Home School

A good thing to do right away is to officially declare yourself a private school. Doing so will sort out a lot of questions early on, even if you only have one child to homeschool this is recommended.

Another option is to simply sign your child up at an area public school, but register for an Independent Study Program that you will be responsible for implementing for your child at home.

Regardless of what option you take, you shouldn’t really have too much of a problem setting up your home school in California.

The teacher

Obviously a tutor will be necessary in a homeschool. In most homeschools It is one of the parents who takes it on their selves to fill this role, but it doesn’t have to be that way if you don’t want it to be. You can pay a tutor to come to your home and tutor your children.

As we’ve already covered a homeschool teacher does not have to be legally certified, but clearly has to be above capable of teaching.

But quite understandably most parents if hiring a tutor to homeschool their children will want to see certifications from that tutor.

By now, if it wasn’t already before, it should be obvious that starting a home school in the state of California, or any state for that matter, is going to require some work on your part and implementing it then after even more, but if giving your child the best education you can is important to you, it will definitely be worthwhile.

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by Abel Cheng

What is self-esteem? Self-esteem is the collection of beliefs or feelings that we have about ourselves, or our ’self perceptions.’ How we define ourselves influences our motivations, attitudes, and behaviors, and affects our emotional judgment.

Self-esteem is also a key to feeling competent and in control. Good self-esteem can impact future and present success in all area of life. Our self esteem is formed by our primary relationships as children, and our very first relationships may indicate how we feel about ourselves for the rest of our lives.

A child with high self-esteem is the most important way to ensure his or her own personal safety. Keeping them away from physical harm comes afterward.

Positive interactions and relationships with parents, teachers, and other adults is the basis for good self-esteem in children. These adults can influence children’s self-esteem by giving constructive and positive feedback to children when they accomplish a task. A “Congratulations” or “Nice job” is all it takes to build this vital skill.

However, positive comments are not the sole builders of self-esteem. Providing a warm, loving, and caring environment is just as important. Children who are shown a lot of affection can still suffer low self-esteem because they feel inadequate or unaccomplished. On the flip side, confident and joyful children can have low self-esteem if they are not loved. A child must experience a balance of both love and confidence to have high self-esteem.

Delivering positive messages and engaging in constructive communication lead to a healthy self-perception. Try these time-tested tips to enhance your child’s can-do attitude.

1. Use positive words. For instance, telling a child what you would like them to do in a way that excludes words like “no” or “bad”. You can help your child maintain a positive attitude by being positive yourself.

2. Allow a child to finish their own sentence Children begin to feel unimportant if you are always putting words into their mouth. Let them finish what they’re trying to say without interruption.

3. Give eye contact Kids want attention. When you look a child right in the eye, they know you are listening. It gives them the idea that you are interested in what they have to say, even if you aren’t.

4. Take turns in the conversation. Agree on who speaks first, and who speaks next. It is important for parents to encourage kids to verbalize their ideas and feelings, but to also wait for the go signal to speak. Children should be able to understand that if people talk all at the same time, they will end up understanding nothing.

5. Speak calmly, and keep irritation and a critical tone out of your voice A calm voice keeps a child from panicking. Use words that the child will comprehend. Let kids know what they need to do, and why or why not they should do something.

6. Criticisms should still be present. We should also take notice of shortcomings or misbehavior as we see it or learn about it. Explain why an action is not acceptable, and allow kids to think of ways to avoid doing it again.

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by Russell M. Stewart

If there’s one thing that every parent has had to learn the hard way, through experience, it is this – that parents are always wrong. Whatever we choose to do as parents, a friends’ parents are doing differently, or whatever we think is good advice to follow today, was scrapped by everyone else yesterday. Being a parent is hard work, and after all those childhood years resenting our own parents and vowing that we would do things so much better if only given the chance, we are now well aware that we are the very parents that we vowed we’d try not to be as children. It might well be the case that we’re not making the same mistakes as our parents, but we’re excellent at making whole rafts of new ones to make life interesting for ourselves and our children.

One aspect in particular which has worried parents today, and which was not an issue back in the days when we were children, is the advent and proliferation of computers and other technologies which allow our children to meet, interact and communicate online with people from all over the world, and to spend hours glued to a screen focussing entirely on moving bunches of pixels from one place to another in a desperate attempt to do strange things like finish the ‘Quest of The j’Graa Goblet’ or seek out Lord Krakticka to pwn him with the rest of the guildies. If this means nothing to you, then join the club – it’s a big club, with a growing number of members.

Most of us are quite literate when it comes to using computers, and indeed most of us have to use them for work each day. Sending and receiving emails, creating letters and documents, working through spreadsheets and databases is of little difficulty. Yet our children seem to find depths to the computer that leave us perplexed. We are the generation who is aware of identity problems, and shred our paperwork rigorously, protecting our personal data at all costs. Yet our children seem to relish the idea of publishing photos, journals and intimate secrets with rash abandon for the whole world to see and do what they will with the material. We’d never stand in the street handing out our email address, phone number and a bunch of photos to any individual who passed us. Yet this is exactly what our children seem to be doing in the digital world. They claim to have hundreds of online friends, yet have never met any of them, and this goes against our very concept of what friendship means.

Naturally, with so many news stories about the terrible things that happen as a result of the internet, with people masquerading as children in an attempt to lure them into meeting up in the real world, and then never seen again. If you have considered the idea of simply binning the computer and saving a lot of trouble, you certainly wouldn’t be the first parent, or the only one to have such concerns.

But the truth is that it is not the computer which is dangerous, and the internet is not an enemy or something dark and subterranean that we should, or could, avoid. Every day we take many risks that could potentially endanger our lives. We drive a tonne of metal at sixty miles an hour just feet from other lumps of metal coming the other way, and accept this as perfectly normal. We stand far more chance of being killed driving on the road than we do of encountering danger on the internet. The difference is both in perception, and understanding. We perceive danger in the internet largely because of a lack of understanding, but because we understand the nature of the risks of driving, we see less danger. We wouldn’t drive on the motorway blindfolded, because we’d almost certainly be killed. Being voluntarily blinded to the risks of the internet not only increases our perception of the danger, but the actual level of risk involved.

So what are the main problems with using the internet, and what can we as parents do to help increase the safety of our children whilst they are enjoying this resource? The most important, and ultimately effective method of helping to support our children is education. This means education of ourselves, and education of our children. The more that you know and understand what is meant by messenger software, chat rooms, online games, profiles and avatars, the more you’ll be able to help your child understand the dangers, and the benefits of using the internet in a safe way. Remember, we’re not trying to scare our children away from the internet – it’s always going to be around and we’re not going to be able to stop them in the end, but we can help make them aware of the issues and help them make educated decisions themselves.

We spend time as parents teaching our children about ’stranger danger’, and make sure they understand not to interact with anyone they don’t know. They have it drummed in to them from an early age that they should not talk to strangers, go off with them, accept lifts or sweets or invitations, and that if they suspect anything is wrong, run back home or to safety straight away and tell someone. This same policy and understanding is often lacking online. The strangers are still there, most of whom are perfectly decent, but many are sadly using the anonymity of the internet to hide behind fake profiles. Our children understand about strangers in the street or park. But online, people aren’t strangers. They have photos, names, hobbies, backgrounds, families and favourite music. The fact that these profiles may be entirely fake seems to pass our children by.

There are other methods besides education which can be used, such as filtering software, monitoring software to record all chat logs, and software that can limit or restrict either the websites accessed or the times at which they can be accessed. Not allowing computers in the bedroom is another good tactic – if the computer is somewhere public, such as the living room, then it is less likely that your child will take risks, and it gives you the parent the chance to have a look at what they’re doing, express an interest, and learn more about the world they live in. Your child is more likely to talk to you about what they’re doing if you seem interested. Whilst restrictions, software and spy-like monitoring can help, at the end of the day, it has to be about your relationship with them, and the real world communication that takes place.

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